couple-counselling

Couples Counselling

Helping couples build strong connections so they can face life’s challenges together.

Whether you're facing communication issues, trust concerns, or simply feeling disconnected from your partner, as a Certified Emotion Focused Couple Therapist, I am here to guide you towards a harmonious and fulfilling relationship.

You may have arrived here because…….

  • Have you been deeply wounded by an affair that it is difficult to trust or recover from?

  • Are you finding the challenges from your blended family setting you apart?

  • Have you experienced a traumatic rupture that overshadows everything, making it difficult to stop the frequent fights?

  • Do you find yourself alone, that you have been thinking of separating in your marriage?

If this is for you: you need a safe place to deescalate your fights, have heart felt talks about how you got here, and work together to repair your relationship.

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You find it difficult to connect at all with your partner.

  • You may be angry at yourself for wrongs you have done, but do not know how to repair your relationship to the spark it once was.

  • You find it impossible to communicate with your partner so you avoid each other.

  • You may be desperately trying to resolve conflicts, but your partner does not respond anymore.

  • You may have past traumas that keep showing up in your fights that seem to never end.

  • You want to rebuild that trust and intimacy back again.

How can you Rebuild Intimacy & Connection

Over time, it is natural for the spark in a relationship to dim.

We will first work together to deescalate your conflicts by identifying and expressing your main concerns, negative behavior patterns, and underlying emotions.

Secondly we will work towards shaping new core emotional experiences, and new interactions that lead to a more secure connection.

Finally, we will work towards consolidating these new interactional positions and new solutions so that the flame of intimacy will be reignited, cultivating a new bond that will help you get through anything that life throws at you.

Through these targeted interventions, you'll rediscover the Joy and Passion that brought you together.

By infusing my own experiences with my clinical training, I am able to help you bond so you can get through all of life’s challenges together.

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My experience with couple counselling

I am a Certified Emotion Focused Couple Therapist with 8 years experience working with couples.

I have monthly Emotion Focused Couple Therapy group supervision.

I am a member of the ICEEFT by Dr Sue Johnson community website.

I have presented Pre-marriage Workshops and “Hold Me Tight” workshops.

My husband and I were participants of a “Hold Me Tight” workshop in preparation to truly know what it feels like in marriage counselling.

How we start the process

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Step One

Please fill out my client intake form on your contact page. Kindly take some time to provide a summary on why you are seeking couple therapy and support.

Contact Form

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Step Two

Book Your Initial Consultation

Please allow me 48 hours to review your form. You will then receive an email from me with a link to book your initial consultation.

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Step Three

On the day if your initial consultation we meet online to discuss your situation and together develop a plan on how we can improve it.

First Consultation

Frequently Asked Questions

  • Infidelity, trust issues, financial conflicts, parenting disagreements, sexual problems, and more.

    Couple counelling is not appropriate for those experiencing domestic violence or emotional abuse. If you fear talking to your partner because it will be used against you, then this maybe you.

  • 8-20 sessions.

    EFCT is all about bonding with your partner and building better attachments between the two of you. And that may take longer depending on what kind of issues got you to seek EFT in the first place.

    I have found that after 10 sessons the fights have de-escalated.

  • It is good to visit weekly or at least every second week during the early stages of couple's therapy so that you can work on your relationship immediately. A gap between sessions can make you feel you are starting over each time.

  • I slow the conflict down by, working with both portners (one person at a time), to identify their understanding of the conflict, their primary emotional reaction, how this impacts their partner and their longing need to reconnect. Then we share these new insights with the other partner, once safety is in place. The goal is to understand each other’s attachment needs that bring couples to a peaceful and lasting resolution.

  • I will observe your interaction and communication patterns during the session to assess relationship dynamics and identify areas for improvement. This may involve noting patterns of conflict, emotional expression, and nonverbal communication cues.

    Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery in 10-12 sessions and 90% show significant improvement.

  • First, I build safety so that each partner can share openly. Then, by using reflective listening techniques during therapy sessions, I can help couples identify specific issues that need addressing so that they can move forward together. This step may be especially beneficial for the partner who was cheated on, enabling them to express their true feelings about the incident. Finally I work towards the root cause of what drew the offender to the affair, so that it will not happen again, building trust back.

  • Couples therapy can tackle the full range of relationship issues, from minor disagreements to major problems in communication. It's never too late to seek help. Even if you feel your relationship is too broken for repair, you'd be surprised how much therapy can help.

    According to the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, the success rate of marriage counseling is around 70%.

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